Normally, I don’t write about astrological events but, as a Libra, I am really feeling the energy of this New Moon in Libra.
This new moon occurs today, Oct. 19t at 12:12 PDT in Libra. The moon represents our emotions and the energy we use for feeling, nurturing and relating. Libra is all about relationships, beauty, diplomacy, loving and finding balance. Combine the moon with the sun in Libra and you have powerful energy for taking a deep dive into evaluating how you relate to yourself, to others and to the greater whole including our institutions and social norms.
A new moon is the perfect time for reflection and taking inventory in order to let go of old patterns and beliefs which do not serve you and to plant seeds for moving forward. Take some time today to reflect upon your relationships. Are there relationships in your present or past that need healing or transformation?
Healing doesn’t always mean that things will end up “happily ever after.” Sometimes, it may mean an ending or separation. It can also be an opportunity for creating deeper levels of intimacy, understanding and connection. Regardless, taking the time to reflect upon your relationships while taking action to compassionately speak, listen and/or seek understanding will lead to a resolution for the highest good of all parties involved.
Libra is about finding balance and a middle way where emotions and beliefs don’t cloud our ability to see a situation clearly. A very tough task to begin because we are all conditioned to see through lenses that have ensured our safety and belonging in the past. Accepting the reality of a situation without extreme emotions attached helps balance the scale so that we can begin the journey of healing and letting go. We often create diversions so as not to have to face a painful realization about ourselves. When we reject something in ourselves and create diversions, we can end up projecting that quality upon another to make them wrong thereby keeping us safe from being rejected ourselves. Gently and compassionately noticing where we can do better and accepting our shortcomings lays the foundation to begin digging deeper to find resolution and create change.
Create a peaceful, quiet space today or within the next couple of days for reflection. Take time to consider some of the following points I’ve outlined below. Remember, while considering these points, we cannot heal that which we reject, despise or hate. And, we can’t heal what we don’t acknowledge. Compassion and kindness are essential when we take the time to go deeper and reflect upon ourselves and our relationship with others. We all have unique stories and journeys much of which will never be known to another. Be gentle when considering yourself and others…
1) How do you relate to yourself?
This New Moon brings a powerful message about self love. Changing the way we view the world and relate to others begins with self love. Your life’s journey and the quality of it will be built upon this very foundation. It is a constant process of reflection, forgiveness and compassion that keeps this foundation strong.
Does your inner critic whisper in your ear prompting your perfectionist to judge your actions and therefore, through relating, the actions of others? One of the archetypes of Libra is The Judge. The Judge can be great in times of discernment and diplomacy but can be detrimental when used to create disconnection. Judging yourself or another helps distract us from taking a closer look at ourselves and can create an environment conducive to divisiveness.
Do you compare yourself to others seeking ways to be better? In a culture that keeps its economy running based upon being and doing “better” through appearances and constant ambitious striving, there is little room to be accepted if you are “outside the box”. Again, through feeling accepted we are ensured our survival and safety. It’s natural to want to fit in. But, the false sense of wellness created by trying to “shapeshift” and conform can eventually morph into depression, anxiety and illness as we find ourselves misaligned to our true nature. Living by comparison also takes away energy which can be used to bring beauty into the world and for finding ways to be of service to others.
How do you speak to yourself? Be conscious of the words you use when engaging in self talk. “Should”, “would”, “can’t” and “never” are prime examples of words that keep us stuck in programmed thinking which prevents us from experiencing life in our own unique way.
2) Are there relationships in your life that need tending?
Relationships are like flowers. They need frequent care and nourishment for growth and good health. Sometimes, flowers require pruning and a larger pot to encourage new growth. And, sometimes, they may need to be divided and grown in separate pots to allow the roots to thrive and avoid becoming root bound.
Taking the time to evaluate and check in with those with whom we relate takes vulnerability and patience. Understanding the mystery of another is a life long journey and will never be complete. Being open to hearing the story of another and listening to their needs, wants and concerns can often trigger vulnerabilities and fears that we may hold ourselves. Being aware of when you are being triggered and taking the time to stop and find a clearer perception apart from intense emotions can help prevent us from projecting our own inner insecurities and/or shadow upon another keeping the pathway for communication open and safe.
3) Where do you play victim?
Another key archetype of Libra is The Victim. This archetype cannot be divided from the act of relating whether it is in relation to an individual, a belief system or to those who have authority over you. Reflection here takes lots of compassion and kindness. Be gentle.
There is a big difference between being victimized and relating day to day as being a victim. Owning The Victim archetype as a means to gain sympathy, power over another and/or as an excuse to keep ourselves from experiencing life to our fullest can be a sign that we may be out of balance in terms of being victimized. If you have been physically or emotionally victimized and find yourself stuck in patterns that keep you from experiencing a life that feels fulfilling, find a professional who can help facilitate the healing required to give you the freedom to move forward.
Blaming and shaming another can also be a way of playing victim without actually being victimized physically or emotionally. “It’s his or her fault” or “The dog ate my homework” are ways of diverting responsibility toward another in an attempt to avoid the consequences of our own actions or seeing our participation in creating or allowing a situation. We see this all of the time in terms of blaming our Congressman, President, Mayor, Parent or any other figure that may be seen as having control over our actions and lifestyle. Seeing where we may have been responsible for or contributed to a consequence takes courage. Many times, the fear of being shamed or punished, overrides our ability to stand up and own our role in allowing or facilitation a situation. Having the courage to take responsibility for our actions whether “good” or “bad” is a part of staying aligned to our true nature and can facilitate our learning.
4) How do you relate to the greater whole?
In a world that is experiencing a huge shift in its way of living and being, how we choose to act in relation to our communities, our society and with the establishments that govern them is of vital importance. Turning a blind eye to injustice, blaming “the powers that be” for our current state of existence and taking sides are all symptoms of fear based relating.
As I have stated before, we cannot heal that which we despise or hate. These emotions are divisive and can project us into victim mentality, blaming/shaming, depression and even violence. They are counterproductive and inhibit our finding solutions to problems and/or stopping behavior that is harmful. We can also adopt a need to seek evidence to validate these emotions keeping us on a treadmill of blaming and projecting and preventing us from taking action to find solutions. It doesn’t mean we have to love or even like the situation or person that is part of an injustice but it does mean putting extreme emotions aside so that we can see clearly to avoid being manipulated into more divisive behavior.
A society that is afraid and divided is more easily controlled.
We are experiencing synchronistic cycles astrologically that represent the breakdown of our systems and establishments that we have come to rely upon as a basis for our way of life. The foundation is crumbling and is an opportunity for us to find new ways to educate, heal, govern and resource ourselves. Our environment is experiencing chaos and will continue to become more violent and unpredictable as we near certain climate “milestones”. If we remain mired in emotions that inhibit our creative thinking and the ability to join together to navigate this dynamic time, we will continue to see a rise in natural disaster victims, violence and resource depletion. Where can you let go of established “norms of living” and find creative ways to be in and of the world?
How can you take this Libra New Moon energy to embrace and create beauty in the world and in your relationships? How can you utilize this energy to let go of past and/or present relationships that no longer serve your highest potential? How can you utilize this energy to nurture present relationships or create new ones moving forward? This New Moon in Libra packs a powerful punch of energy for bringing energy to heal how we relate to ourselves, each other and to our greater outer world giving us more balanced footing for moving forward.
If you would like to learn more about how I can help facilitate relationship awareness and healing or you would like to discover your unique connection to the greater world, feel free to contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org.